Wednesday, March 3, 2021

Communism is an illusion

 

Communism is an illusion

We all know that the theory of communism developed by Karl Marx during the mid 19th century is the antagonist of Capitalism.




The theory of communism is a social organization where each individual in the society is equally benefited and the wealth is equally devised among the population. In contrast to that, capitalism is an economic system that is also known as individualism based on the private ownership of property. 

 

The first thing that we need to take into consideration is that communism was born because of excessive capitalism, but why are these theories opposing each other when we humans ourselves have created it?

Certainly, capitalism has negative consequences, such as poverty and social imbalance. Yet at present, the world evolves with it and it is not treated as something created by humans, it has now become the norm, it has now become the social system. For example, this artificial man-made norm emphasizes the distinction between thin and fat, rich and poor. We all try to be thin and rich by unconsciously becoming a slave of the norms that society has created. Where ever we go, whatever we see, whatever we hear, whatever we consume, and whatever we learn are all composed of capitalism. As a result, this capitalistic mindset of human has affected the attitude and personality to be selfish and egoistic by continuously trying to own property and valuables that has now become natural to the living. Each newborn is taught to be the best in society and be successful as we continuously run the race to be wealthy, but we do not try to be fat and poor. We do not try to share our property because it would make us poor and drag us into poverty. Why? Because being fat and poor is considered abnormal since society doesn't accept it and such people are being discriminated.

Even though society speaks against capitalism, those who fight against it aren't really practicing communism. Also, it is well aware that capitalism cannot be ceased for the hegemony it holds. Even if one attempts to do so, one creates an inevitable powerful enemy because capitalists would never let a communist prevail or win by any chance.

So, how can the world cease capitalism? 

This is something to ponder... 

 

According to my opinion, communism has no power to stand against capitalism in this world. While at the same time, to live in this world it is essential to be a capitalist unless none will be able to survive. 

 

Therefore, do you think that this world will ever be a follower of communism or is it just an illusion?

 

Tuesday, March 2, 2021

 When we judge, We are judged?



When you are asked what is the most used mobile application in your mobile phone last week, what will be your answer? If it is not a social media application, it is unbelievable. In this situation, social media has become a platform, wherein people judge others virtually in different criteria. So far we may have read many articles which indicate how we are affected by this social media. Nevertheless, have you ever read an article which indicate how others and the image of our representative country are affected by what we have done on social media?

It is obvious that social media is utilized in diverse intentions, such as providing sarcasm, trolling, marketing, gossiping and a bit of giving knowledge also. In Sri Lankan social media context, sarcasm and trolling are the main intentions. It is fine that these are considered as mind – relaxing activities for a set of people.  However, are we using these trolling and sarcasm in an accurate way? Considering the most recent incident on the Facebook account of “Angela Hutti”, an American meteorologist working for Fox 2 News, most of Sri Lankan Facebook users started to comment on her Facebook posts, imitating her name as a bad word in Sinhala. In the genuine sense, Sri Lankan Facebook users had not had any work other than commenting on her posts. It had become such viral that, Facebook users in Sri Lankan region were banned visiting her Facebook account. What a shame. Isn’t it?


Did we ever think about how she feels when such a shameful Sri Lankan word is imitated not only to her name, but also her child’s name? It is fine if that Sri Lankan word comes to our mind when we read that name. Nevertheless, is it necessary to comment that word on her posts showing how Sri Lankans mind set is working? At the end of the day, the image of Sri Lanka was not badly but completely collapsed by set of comments on a social media account of an American. The joke is that we are still blaming politicians about not being a developed state for 70 years. How can we expect a development more than this with this discipline?  We all should be happy about surviving this country to this extent with this kind of discipline level.

A wise man once said “correct your own mistakes, before blaming others”. So, correct your own mistakes, thoughts and the way you behave in social media before blaming politicians for each and everything. The more you judge others, the more you are judged. The more you are judged individually, the whole country is judged.       

It should not HURT to be a CHILD

   

It should not HURT to be a CHILD


As reports of child sexual abuse or else sexual harassment is always featured in most of the newsfeeds from across the country with regular and horrifying frequency, it is evident that Sri Lanka is facing a nationwide crisis of child abuse/ harassment. According to what we hear and see it is evident that there is no reduction instead there is a drastic increase in the number of cases reported. One cannot imagine how many more go unreported. Amidst all these, Laws are in place and departments and ministries are established to protect Sri Lankan children. Then, why have we failed to protect our children?

    NCPA: The National Child Protection Authority is the main authority responsible for child protection in the country. Many reports reveals that the increase of child abuse cases in Sri Lanka is the result of numerous failures on the part of the National Child Protection Authority. Delaying in formulating a national policy, no progress in maintaining or preparing a national database on child abuse, complains and cases remains unresolved-stuck with no progress, are some of the areas that should be concerned in order to establish a secure country for your child to live peacefully. 

  
 We live in a country where a child should be afraid of their own parents more than of outsiders. Sri Lanka is engrossed in an enigmatic Pandemic of child abuse or harassment. As adults who no longer have the ability to go back and enjoy life we tend to redundantly express how delightful we would be 'if we could go back to our childhood and experience the joy, freedom and good memories' but can we expect the present child who is sexually abused by his/her own mother or father, to be happily nostalgic of their past?

    Very recently we heard how a mother of a 9 year old child allegedly believed her daughter had been possessed by a demon and had taken her to the home of an exorcist, where the  exorcist, an unidentified woman, repeatedly hit her with a cane, claiming it was a way to drive out a demon that had possessed the child, thus the 9 year old child had collapsed after the beating. Imagine a mother allowing a woman to beat her own child! From this incident child abuse/sexual harassment in Sri Lanka has been taken to another crucial level, thus nowadays children should be protected from not only outsiders but from their very own parents. After-all, whom should the child trust, from whom should the child expect shelter, protection, love and care?

  

     The real pandemic is yet to be initiated, the pandemic where your child will be a victim of this hellish world where , parents who are believed to be the guardian angels protecting their children, themselves tend to kill their own blood- children can no longer trust their parents. In order to combat child abuse and sexual harassment in Sri Lanka, we have to stand against child abuse and harassment, thus peer pressure has been shown as to be one of the most effective ways to achieve social change. The government has an obligation to increase legal accountability, but society must also play a role in addressing the problem. All men and women are not predators who are waiting for their pray. It is therefore other Sri Lankan citizens –- the majority of whom are not predators  –- who have a great deal of power to combat the problem. we must consistently make it clear to our associates that child abuse and harassment is not normal, not respectable and not acceptable and we should be attentive in order to combat such discrepancies in the society and to safeguard the innocent smiles of the country.




Do you think that every child should have  have the right to protection? Should they have the right to survive, to be safe, to belong, to be heard, to receive adequate care and to grow up in a protective environment?


Monday, March 1, 2021

From passion to profession

From passion to profession!




Someone has rightly said, 'to be successful you need to find your passion and follow it' and rest everything is in between.

Follow Your Passion

What is Passion- It is something that does not let you sleep at night. It is something that makes you want to do something different. The uncontrolled feeling of doing something and not being satisfied with it. An emotion that can overpower all other emotions. Passion could be anything and can be discovered at any age. Unlike Government jobs, Passion does not have an expiry date. But what is most important is that you need to identify passion and find ways to keep it alive.

 


Passion should not be confused with interest, liking, hobby or a temporary phase. Where as you might be interested in something for sometime, passion is forever and does not change with season or reason. I have heard many people who say 'I am passionate about sports and I love Football' and when they are asked how often they play or who is their favorite football player or which club they support, they do not have a clear answer. So this shows that they like watching football but to say that they are passionate about football is not justified. Had that been the case they would 'eat sleep and drink football'. (not literally but you get the point). 

 A lot of people are able to identify their passion but are not able to follow it for long. They might be crazy or enthusiastic for a while but then with busy lives and personal and professional commitments they loose the zeal. Passion is something you always need to find time for rather excuses. I remember I was in class X and all I wanted to do was learn how to play synthesizer. So my parents bought me a basic Casio Model and I along with one of my friend started going to a music teacher during our two month long summer break. When I started playing the instrument it gave me immense joy, and the feeling that I am creating something excited me. I played consistently, the songs that were taught and the ones that I learnt on my own. I discovered my passion when I was 16 years old and 15 years later, I am still playing. However now with a busy family and office life, I don't get much free time. But an hour everyday is reserved for my music and I follow it. Sometimes I cant carry my synthesizer so I have perfect piano app from Google Play Store installed in my phone and tablet, so where ever I go, I can play. When I am stuck in a long traffic jam, I use my tablet to make tunes. The chords and the sound coming out of it soothes me and makes my mind relax. Passion can be followed anywhere and anytime if you really want to pursue it.

 Some people are really lucky. They find their passion and realize that this is everything they ever wanted to do and turn it into a profession. There is nothing like working for your passion. So don't keep thinking that one day you will find time for this. Now is the moment and now is the perfect time to start. Don't let your passion take a back seat. Because when you are 70 years old, you wont remember who your boss was, but you will surely remember the joy you got when you followed your passion. Don't stop till that is the only option left!



Friday, February 26, 2021

BE KIND whenever possible. IT IS ALWAYS POSSIBLE.


 



This short film depicts how a little act of kindness can make someone’s life better. Though it was not something very huge, to that boy it meant a lot. The guy helped him with what he could, not expecting anything in return. It was clear that he himself was not well-off but when it comes to kindness, there is no age, race, or status. Another thing is that from this video we can understand that not every bad deed is done with a bad intention. The boy stole because his mother was sick and he had no money to buy medicine. If we as humans can not understand that, where is the meaning of humanity?. Thus as humans who were given precious and rare lives, we should help others with what we have and be understanding of another living being's situation with empathy, because a little act of kindness can brighten anyone’s day. 



Kindness is the sincere and voluntary use of one's time, talent, and resources to better the lives of others, one's own life, and the world. We tend to think that kindness is only for others but in fact, we should be kind to ourselves too. We tend to beat ourselves up when we do mistakes or we tend to hate ourselves when negative things happen. But we have to embrace ourselves and be kind to ourselves and help ourselves to stand up again. Because after all we were born to be alone and have to live alone. 


Apart from that, kindness involves choice.

If we as humans decide to be a little bit kind towards another human being, especially who is in need, it would make a difference in both our lives. The pleasure of giving is satisfying. Remember the face of the man who was in the streets, when you gave him a packet of food? Remember the smile on the kids, when you gifted them toys? Or that dog whose eyes had tears when you took him home to take care of? While you were complaining about your food being not tasty there are millions of people starving and dying from hunger. It is important to understand this and to be grateful for what we have. When we realize that, an insignificant thing to us is a blessing to another, we will be able to help the world more.



Moreover understanding that not every bad deed is done with a bad motive is important. Stephen Mitchell once said, “so actions themselves are not good and not bad, only the intention is important”. This is true to a great extent because as we saw in the video the boy was only trying to help his mother.  But the woman who could not understand this or did not try to understand this was not being human. She only cared about losing some money from her business. Depicting how people can be rotten materialistic, this short film enhances the beauty of kindnessπŸ’œ.




To sum up, as humans, the only creatures who can think and decide, we should help others. We should be kind not only to other people but to ourselves and also to animals and to the whole mother nature. Though it would not mean anything to you, the old clothes you will give away will be a world to someone. And if you do good, it is definite that they would find you back. Because After All, you reap what you saw. The universe will definitely find a way to pay back the good you once did. But it would be great if you help and understand others without expecting anything in return. Do it because it makes you happy. Do it because it will make someone happy. If you can better someone else’s life even by 0.001%, it will be more than enough because doing something is better than doing nothing.





In an era where humanity is losing, seeing these kinds of articles really makes our hearts warm and makes us want to be like them too. https://www.boredpanda.com/random-acts-of-kindness/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=organic




So share the good deeds you have done to someone(a person or an animal), or to yourself, or to mother nature in the comment section so that we all can know and learn something.





Tuesday, February 23, 2021

Colour Psychology & Marketing

 

Colour Psychology & Marketing


We live in a world filled with abundant colours, and they are the different characteristics of our visual perceptions. Colour Psychology, a field that studies human behaviour in relation to different colours, show how colours are a powerful tool for non-verbal communication. Colours are generally associated with enhancing beauty, however, it is incorporated in many other aspects, such as in literature, designing and marketing. How often do you think of the colour of a brand before you purchase it? Does your choice of the item differ with the colour of the brand or the logo? These are questions that we as customers would not be considering, however, any brand or a company would give much thought to the colour to be used when designing a logo.

 

The impact created through the use of colours goes beyond the stereotypical framework, of setting the atmosphere or outlining the emotional status of the characters. The connotations associated with each colour may vary according to the context, as the individual preference over a particular colour is subjective. However, it is universal in meaning as they create a similar effect on the human brain. Given that colour psychology is incorporated as the main marketing strategy in modern society, do you agree that colours can be employed as strong indicators of human emotions? Let’s take a look at some of the underlined meanings and the psychological interpretations of colours that are predominantly used in the field of marketing.

 

Red; - It is a colour that is often linked with strong emotions; such as love, desire and anger. These characteristics are universally attributed to signify strength and power. Marketers use this colour to capture the attention of the audience. Did you ever wonder why the logos of famous food brands like KFC, Pizza Hut, Mc Donalds, and even Coca-cola, use red in their logos? It is because red is used to stimulate the appetite of the viewers, as it increases metabolism. Red is also a symbol of power and prestige. Have you ever noticed the use of any other colour such as ‘blue’ or ‘green’, instead of a ‘red carpet’ at momentous film or award festivals? It is because red intensifies a sense of distinction. Another instance where red is associated is to trigger excitement, which is why the logo of YouTube has been designed using the colour red.

 

Black; – have you realised that black is not a colour because all colours combined would result in black? However, it is generally attributed to everything negative and evil. The interpretation of this colour relies on the personal experiences of the individual. Black can absorb the light in the surrounding to highlight on its own, and this is the reason for it to be considered as the colour of elegance. Many fashionistas prefer black clothing, while popular brands such as Calvin Klein, Nike, Adidas and Puma have used black in their company logos for this reason.

Pink; –is a colour that is attributed to females and feminine qualities, as it serves feelings of immaturity and liveliness. This association has been utilized in many items that are designed for females, for example, products such as Fair & lovely, Victoria Secret use pink in their brands. A sense of playfulness in relation to pink is conveyed through products designed for girls, such as Barbie and Hello Kitty.

Green; -the colour of nature, implies a sense of tranquillity, optimism, and fertility. It can also be associated with negative connotations such as cruelty and jealousy, as symbolized in Harry Potter, through the Slytherin house. However, in marketing, the preference is given over to the positive attributes. Like for example, before production or performance, the participants would remain in a ‘green room’, as it carries a sense of calmness. This is also a reason for the use of green in the logo of Spotify, an app that provides music. Green has the ability to evoke excitement, and food brands popular among the youth such as tic tac, Starbucks and even Sprite, use green in their logos.

Blue; - this colour serves closely with feelings such as stability, trust and serenity similar to the attributes of the sky and the sea. It has the opposing effect of the colour – red, as it reduces tension and develops a sense of calmness. Has it ever occurred to you why leading multinational companies use blue when designing their logos? It is the sense of reliability and universally favourable nature associated with the colour blue. Social media platforms such as Skype, Twitter, and Facebook, monetary authorities such as Commercial Bank, Visa, American Express and Pay pal, consumer goods companies such as Unilever, Nestle, and other famous technology-related brands such as hp, Dell, Samsung, have used blue in designing their logos.

This concept of colour psychology is growing in the field of marketing with its promising effects on reaching to a wider population. These are examples drawn from famous sources to indicate how colour has been employed as a mechanism to convey a range of information, as it has the ability to create an impact on the minds of the viewers, whereby influence them psychologically. Scientific research provides the grounds to draw references between colours and human behaviour, however, it is in the hand of marketers to employ the associations effectively and skillfully.

Colours are involved with many aspects of our lives, and it plays an important role in the field of Marketing, with its ability to influence psychological and physiological reactions. How far would you consider that colour can create a significant impact beyond enhancing beauty? Comment on the stimulating associations that have been made with other colours in the field of marketing.

Monday, February 22, 2021

Are Villains Born Evil?

 

Are Villains Born Evil?



How often do you sympathise over the loss of the villain in any movie or TV series that you have watched? Have you ever considered the villain to have a shred of humanity? The immediate reply would be a ‘No’, and to a certain extent this is implied with the viciousness and the desire of the villain's attempt to make life miserable for the other characters that appear alongside.

Irrespective of the genre and the variations in the plot, a majority of the movies has a hero and a villain developed under different circumstances. Though much is spoken of the protagonist, it is the villain that intensifies the action and suspense that captures the audience. In fact, they set the grounds for the hero to develop and to gain the glory in the scene. However, the initial thought that comes to our mind when we hear the term villain is everything associated with hatred and evilness. They are shown as the cause for the chaos and destruction, and as the potential threat to the hero of the story and those around. This makes it difficult for the audience to find a sense of humanity within the antagonist, and hence would prefer the hero over the villain. Despite of the callousness displayed, have it ever occurred to you that it is the villain that highlights the hero? If the villain, or the ‘bad guy ’was not strongly constructed, there will be no opportunity for the protagonist, or the ‘good guy’, to play hero.

We are left with the assumption that many of these characters who play evil, are inherently nasty and miserable. However, if we analyse such characters in depth, we realise that most of them had been forces of good before they were surrendered to a life of crime and murder. The series of events that capture the development of the protagonist is more often unfolded in movies than that of the antagonist. However, this untold chapter of the ‘bad guys’ in are revealed at some point in the story line. 

Like for instance, in Harry Potter, a fantasy series written by J.K. Rowling, the true character of Professor Snape is exposed at the end of the series, in the final movie, Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows – part two. It takes only a minor cause to trigger the callousness in the hearts of the villain, and each of these characters will have a different history that obliged them to be immoral.  However, they all have been psychologically and socially reprimanded for their choices, and repeatedly secluded from society. 

Take a look at these examples drawn from two popular movies, where it brings into light that the characters identified as the villain or the 'monster', were once humans with empathy and a sense of humanity.

We all recognize Lord Voldermort as the villain in Harry Potter, but we are also made aware that as a child, then called as Tom Riddle, he was well mannered and fascinated all teachers with his talents. He was not brutal and cold hearted as how we attribute him. Gradually, we realise that it was his hatred towards his father, that turned him to be the most powerful and dangerous character of the wizarding world, where the name itself caused terror in people.

Also, in the DC’s Batman movies, we identify the Joker, as the all-time villain, given his unstable state of mind that led to behaviours of total insanity. However, his life prior to these events was not that of evil; it was a deal he made with the mob in order to care for his wife, that got himself involve in illegal breakings. It happened to be a chemical company, where his mission was not executed as planned. In order to escape form Batman, he jumped in to a pool of chemicals, which resulted in disfigurement, and it made him mentally unstable, and thereafter with his appearance, was called the Joker. Ever since then he is recognized as the potential threat to Batman, and the audience praises the actions of the hero over the failures of the villain.

The list goes on where villains are not born evil as they are perceived to be, and we can outline similar circumstances in other fields of work such as in tv series, novels, plays, etc. The degree of success in any production, depends on the contribution of the characters, which relies on how well the scripts are written. As critiques write, “Villains are the heroes worst enemy, and the screenwriter’s best friend”, conveys that the villain should be powerful and convincing as the protagonist of the plot. 

All things considered, would you not agree that just as much we have a high regard for the hero, we have a secret admiration towards the villain, but would rather vouch otherwise?  

Give it a thought the next time you sit to watch a movie. Comment on what other characters you came across who are portrayed evil, however were people with good intentions prior to their episodes of darkness.  

 

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What I do when I feel like giving up

 





I am struggling today. If you have tried to be consistent with something you care about, maybe my efforts will resonate with you.

It is nearly 365 days since I have started my degree. Some days most glorious, some days most frustrating and stressful I have managed to my best level so far.

Today I want to give up

But today? Well, I am struggling today. Today, I don't want to study. Today, I don’t want to stick to the routine. Today, I don’t think my brain supports me with my daily studies. Looks like my mind is exhausted, and I don’t have enough time to give myself a break or procrastinate. Today, I want to give up.

Research from the University of Pennsylvania shows that perseverance is a trait closely related to success. I can use some grit today.

This is what I want to remind myself when I want to give up...

Your mind is a suggestion engine

Consider every idea you think is a suggestion, not an order. Now, my thoughts show that I am tired. Suggest that I give up. This shows that I have taken a simple path.

However, if I pause for a while, I will find new suggestions. My thoughts also imply that once this work is completed, I will be very happy. This shows that I will respect the identity I am building when I follow the schedule. This shows that I can complete this task, even if I don't want to.

Remember, these suggestions are not commands. They are just choices. I have the right to choose the option to follow.

Discomfort is Temporary

Compared to the usual day or time of the week, nearly any habit you perform is over quickly. Your workout will be completed in one or two hours. Your report will be submitted tomorrow morning. This article will be completed soon.

Life now is easier than ever. 300 years ago, if you didn't hunt for your food and build your own house, you would die. Today, we complain and whine about forgetting our iPhone charger.

Maintain perspective. Your life is good, and your discomfort is temporary. Step into the moment of thinking pattern and let it increase your strength.

Once completed, you will never regret good work.

Theodore Roosevelt once famously said: "Far and away the best prize that life has to offer is the chance to work hard at work worth doing.." Therefore, we often seem to want to easily complete the work that is worth doing. . We want our work to be helpful and respected, but we don't want to struggle in our work. We want our stomachs to be flat and our arms strong, but we don't want to wear it through another workout. We need the final result, not the failed attempt before the final result. We need gold, but no grinding.

Anyone would want a gold medal. But a few people want to train like Olympians.

However, despite our resistance, after completing the due hard work, I have never found myself feeling worse. There were days when it was so difficult to start assignments with three-four due in a week, but it was always worth completing. Sometimes, even the simple act of appearing ordinary and having the courage to do the work is a victory worth celebrating.

This is life

Life is a constant balance between giving in to the ease of distraction or overcoming the pain of discipline. It is no exaggeration to say that our lives and identities are defined in this delicate balance. What is life, if not the sum of 100,000 daily battles and small decisions to either make it or give it up?

This moment you don’t feel like doing the work? This is not a moment to be thrown away. This is not a dress rehearsal. This moment, like any other moment, is your life. The way you spend it will ultimately make you proud.

Let the world decide

So, what should I do when I want to give up? I show up.

Do I show up at my best? I doubt it. But my job is not to judge how good or bad I am.

My job is to do things to my best level and let my teachers decide.

 



Who Do You Think You Are?


Love is an intense feeling of deep affection for someone or something that we experience as humans. It has no conditions or limits. Sometimes people enjoy the feeling of love whereas some people suffer due to love. Christina Perri's song 'Jar of Hearts' is an example of the latter; how people suffer due to love. This song is about a girl who is trying to stay away from her lover who wants her back in a relationship. Throughout the song, the heartbroken feelings of a girl are described. The lyrics show that the man once the girl loved has hurt her feelings more than once, and he returns to her again and again. It has affected the feelings of the girl. When she is trying to forget him, he comes again to find her love. The suffering of the girl is obvious in this song. Although this song is about a heartbroken relationship of a girl this can be applicable for boys as well. The melancholic tone of the song implies that still she loves the man. Yet, this time she won't accept him as she has made up her mind and she thinks not from her heart but from her brain. 

Personally, for me, the most heart touching verse is that,

" You are gonna catch a cold

From the ice inside your soul

So don't come back for me

Who do you think you are?"

This shows that the girl believes in karma. She does not want to get revenge from him, but she waits for the time to punish him for his bad deeds. She desperately wants him to understand the mistakes he has done. That is why she repeatedly asks the question " Who do you think you are? "

ARE YOUR FRIENDS REAL OR FAKE?

 Do you have friends? Surely, most of you will reply with “yes” as there should be at least one friend in your life who is always there being for you at any risk. Are all the friends real? My point is that most of them are fake friends who only need light from you, even though you’re burning in the flames of life.

 


Friendships are one of the major bonds that are being maintained by almost all human beings, and that type of bond can have a profound impact on an individual’s mental health and well-being. Sometimes, a good companionship means a powerful tool to face any challenge and it can console your soul by replacing every pain and loneliness with a delicate smile and integrity. Real friends can always offer their shoulders you can lean on to. They endure your struggles and help you in the storms of life. Having such real friends is actually a blessing to one’s life. Unfortunately, it has become a hard task to find real friends since they are very rare in this universe. However, you definitely meet a lot of toxic people wearing a mask, hiding fakeness, and appearing as real friends.

What will happen if you are in a friendship with fake friends? First of all, you have to spot and identify who are the fake friends.

 

BE CAREFUL WHO YOU TRUST

       Fake friends are more common in society than you think because in a rat race life more people tend to be selfish and strive to come up by bullying others. These friends cannot be recognized at first sight. They may appear as best friends to you and that makes it difficult to identify them correctly. 

Here are the signs of fake friends.

  • They are not trustworthy
  • They adore gossip and drama
  •  They will prefer you when they only need you
  • They have no commitment
  • They will lie
  • They are critical of you
  • They tell bad things when you’re not around
  • They are envious and jealous of you
  • They shun you
  • They exploit your good heart and kindness

 

“The fake people do not dare to come out from their mask and face the truth of the real ones.” (Ehsan Sehgal)

 

 

CAN THEY CAUSE FOR DEPRESSION IN YOU?

   Yes, exactly. Fake friends can make a depression. How? Once you meet friends, you will try to always be with them, enjoy your life with them, share your personal life with them, and most importantly you will trust them. Those friends will also act like best friends and will convince you that they are really happy by being with you. They may say that they want the success of your life and happiness and they promise you to help. Consequently, you believe them and continue your friendship for two-three months or two-three years. At one point, you will realize that you had been used and bullied trickily by them. 

Let us take an example: You are preparing for an exam. Your friends say that you will definitely pass your exam and they will motivate you with words like “don’t be afraid”, “we’re always for you”, “let’s do this anyway” Conversely, they hide your notes, gossip with you, ask you to come to watch films and do everything to prevent you from achieving success.

This is just a simple example. These friends are toxic people or abusers and always with an artificial fake smile. When you identify these so-called friends or frenemies, you will start to think that “these friends are fake” and “the whole world is fake”. After comprehending the danger lurking behind friendships, you’ll feel torn inside, shattered and that can harm your wellbeing and finally, you will get depression.

 

HOW TO DEAL WITH THEM

 Fake friends can devastate your personal life seriously. There are two options. Avoiding fake friends and finding real friends. Don’t get depressed because of unwanted toxic people. I am sensing that the best option is to avoid them as far as possible. They are just trouble makers and a nuisance, creating problems for you. The world is not fair at all and we should adapt to that unfairness with intelligence. You have to intelligently get away from fake friends. I firmly agree with Lord Buddha’s preaching that “if you cannot find a good friend, it is better to be alone” Befriend with you. Love yourself. Chase your dreams. Then, you will win.

Now, this is your turn to share your own experiences about fake friends or real friends.πŸ‘€πŸ‘¬πŸ‘­