Friday, February 19, 2021

Courtesy is a sign of dignity, not subservience



What is courtesy ?

Courtesy or in other words politeness which is bestowed up by good - breeding, is an ornament  for any individual. If someone asks
 what the most befitting of courtesy, the most suitable answer that can be given is, courtesy means the respect that is shown to others by members of a society. People can beautify their living environment by speaking and treating others respectfully. The words or phrases like "please", "thank you", "I'm sorry", "I apologize you" have been embedded within a language for the usage of cultured and courteous people. Everyone loves to be spoken courteously. But, unfortunately, most people tend to use brawn - power in most of the occasions where they are expected to be courteous which is a sign of their feeble stupidity believing that politeness is inferior. So, the idea - "politeness is a sign of dignity, not subservience" need to be cultivated in the minds of the people.

"GRATITUDE ISTHE MOST EXQUISITE FORM OF COURTESY"                                                                                                                   Jacques Maritain

Why do we need to be courteous ?

It was came to light that, how severe the problems of conflicts which happen world - wide with introducing 'Conflict-Resolution' as a subject in Sri Lankan universities. Therefore, disciplined and polite behavior is essential and it must be an object of education as well, because if this will start to be taught in schools eventually the students will learn how to be polite in certain situations. As a result, a new generation with the quality of politeness can be harvested in the near future.

On the other hand, the violence or the conflicts in a society can be reduced as soon as possible, if all are get used to speak in this manner. Also,  tolerating others' ideas, allowing the other person to speak, listening to others, bearing others' infirmities neglecting one's own self ego considering human lapses are common are valuable characteristics of a courteous person. Any person should have the courage to bear- up others' ideas although he doesn't agree with.  Being courteous is the path which led the way to a friendly environment with less sorrow 



How can we improve courtesy?

Childhood is the ideal age to install courtesy in the minds of people. Children of courteous, cultured parents exhibit these qualities in their childhood itself. Such children are indeed like fragrant flowers blooming in the morning, and they help to make the world more beautiful and pleasant to live in. 


So, it is important to exclude callousness, aggressiveness, and teasing words from children, and, instead of them cultivate politeness and courtesy. Also, people must borne in mind that, forbearance, conversing meekly with a friendly smile are not subservience, but, are strong bonds that enhance unity, friendliness and harmony within people. If all start to think in this way, consequently, we can make the world we will in  a better and glorious one.


1 comment:

  1. In today's society politeness; courtesy is also become a material which is selling in the market!. People are attending for classes and following courses to learn how to talk politely. Thus, isn't it something that happens because of materializing even good human qualities?, politeness?. In such a condition I think, raising this topic should be highly appreciated. According to my point of view politeness exists through a life without any harm for itself and others. If a person handles his/her words, actions as a disturbance for another, he/she is breaking the basic lessons of politeness. Thus, what we should do is try our best to make our behavior not to disturb others. According to my point of view before you are doing something you just have to think whether this act will be harmful for me and others. After that you will not throw the toffee packing on the road, you will not whistle girls who are passing the road and so on. Finally, you will achieve the politeness and make it an innate habit in your life automatically.✨

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